Most relationship fights aren't about what you think they're about. They're two different types with two different emotional needs talking past each other.

Your partner isn't being "too emotional" or "too distant." They're responding from their type's core needs. A Type 2 needs to feel needed. A Type 5 needs space to process. A Type 8 needs respect and directness. Miss these needs, and conflict escalates. Meet them, and connection deepens.

The same words mean different things to different types. Learn their language, and watch the dynamic shift.

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Try This Tonight

Think of your last argument with someone close to you. What did they actually need in that moment? Validation? Space? Control? Reassurance?

Now consider: did you give them what they needed, or what your type would have wanted? That gap is where most relationship friction lives. Close it, and watch connection flow.

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Common Questions

Quick answers to common questions

Which Enneagram types are most compatible?

Any two types can have a successful relationship. Compatibility depends more on health levels than type pairings. That said, certain combinations have predictable dynamics. Understanding both types helps navigate natural friction points.

Why do certain types clash?

Types clash when their core fears trigger each other. Type 8's directness threatens Type 9's peace. Type 1's criticism wounds Type 4's sensitivity. Recognizing these patterns transforms conflict from personal attacks into understandable type dynamics.

How do I communicate better with different types?

Speak to their core need. Give Type 3s recognition. Give Type 5s space. Give Type 2s appreciation. Give Type 6s reassurance. When you address what each type actually needs, communication becomes dramatically more effective.